I prefer not to speak, if I speak I am in big trouble
Rich-Highway-1116 on
An honest journalist would have inserted “domestic” in that headline
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There are hundreds of thousands, maybe millions of women basically experiencing the *Handmaid’s Tale* in the UK, in the 2020s – they are taught from youth that they are obligated to dress modestly whenever in the prescence of men, that they should obey their fathers (who always head households and make all the decisions), and then they should obey their husbands once married, they are admonished or even assaulted if they date outside the religion, they are expected to perform “womenly” duties and do all the cooking, childcare and housework – if they disobey their husbands then they potentially face domestic abuse. If they try to leave the religion they will be ostracised and face verbal and sometimes physical abuse. So the Handmaid’s Tale is very much happening all around us it’s just a different religion to the one Atwood based her story on.
Lots of people fear reporting abuse. It should be more acceptable for everyone to report abuse, woman, man, color etc shouldn’t matter. If you’re not reporting it how can you expect it to stop.
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My school had a very high proportion of students who were of Pakistani origin. Every single year, girls from Pakistani families left and never came back, because they’d been married off. Whenever we would ask about it, we were told by teachers to respect their culture. A lot of Pakistani men would hang around our school and ask if we had boyfriends or if we wanted to go for rides in their cars. My dad went into the school, and also spoke to the police about it, and was told to stop being racist and respect their culture. A lot of girls got raped by these men over a decade, as we all now know, these girls were not listened to, and nobody wanted to take action for risk of being labelled racist.
And now decades and decades of this kind of mentality means that women in violent and abusive relationships have no real way to leave and no support, either from their families or the wider community. It shouldn’t be left to a mosque to provide these services, and support for domestic violence shouldn’t be religion based. The whole story is horrific.
Icy-Cod9863 on
At the end of the day, this seems like a personal issue. Why get the wider public involved with their private shit?
kebabish on
This headline stinks of ‘so where are you from? no where are you really from?’ .. On one hand they tell them, “integrate, you’re British” but whenever something like this crops up, suddenly they’re Pakistani.
Jiggaboy95 on
Can you blame them?
They report it, nothing happens, more abuse follows.
They’re prisoners in their own marriages majority of the time and sometimes their own families won’t help.
RudePragmatist on
Culturally the parents who have come to UK have not changed, and this has been passed down to their sons.
If they women were to all stand up as one they’d soon see changes happen.
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I prefer not to speak, if I speak I am in big trouble
An honest journalist would have inserted “domestic” in that headline
There are hundreds of thousands, maybe millions of women basically experiencing the *Handmaid’s Tale* in the UK, in the 2020s – they are taught from youth that they are obligated to dress modestly whenever in the prescence of men, that they should obey their fathers (who always head households and make all the decisions), and then they should obey their husbands once married, they are admonished or even assaulted if they date outside the religion, they are expected to perform “womenly” duties and do all the cooking, childcare and housework – if they disobey their husbands then they potentially face domestic abuse. If they try to leave the religion they will be ostracised and face verbal and sometimes physical abuse. So the Handmaid’s Tale is very much happening all around us it’s just a different religion to the one Atwood based her story on.
Highly recommend reading [The Caged Virgin](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Caged_Virgin) by Ayaan Hirsi Ali
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Lots of people fear reporting abuse. It should be more acceptable for everyone to report abuse, woman, man, color etc shouldn’t matter. If you’re not reporting it how can you expect it to stop.
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My school had a very high proportion of students who were of Pakistani origin. Every single year, girls from Pakistani families left and never came back, because they’d been married off. Whenever we would ask about it, we were told by teachers to respect their culture. A lot of Pakistani men would hang around our school and ask if we had boyfriends or if we wanted to go for rides in their cars. My dad went into the school, and also spoke to the police about it, and was told to stop being racist and respect their culture. A lot of girls got raped by these men over a decade, as we all now know, these girls were not listened to, and nobody wanted to take action for risk of being labelled racist.
And now decades and decades of this kind of mentality means that women in violent and abusive relationships have no real way to leave and no support, either from their families or the wider community. It shouldn’t be left to a mosque to provide these services, and support for domestic violence shouldn’t be religion based. The whole story is horrific.
At the end of the day, this seems like a personal issue. Why get the wider public involved with their private shit?
This headline stinks of ‘so where are you from? no where are you really from?’ .. On one hand they tell them, “integrate, you’re British” but whenever something like this crops up, suddenly they’re Pakistani.
Can you blame them?
They report it, nothing happens, more abuse follows.
They’re prisoners in their own marriages majority of the time and sometimes their own families won’t help.
Culturally the parents who have come to UK have not changed, and this has been passed down to their sons.
If they women were to all stand up as one they’d soon see changes happen.