>For two weeks, my brother and I were in care together, but the foster carers decided they didn’t want him. That was the most soul-destroying thing that had ever happened to me. I remember screaming as we were ripped apart from each other
I just don’t know how people can do this to children. Why do people this cold and cruel work in foster care/CPS?
CardiffCity1234 on
In Wales they did a universal income trial for care leavers for a couple of years. I think they’re waiting a few years before they publish the results just to see any medium term effects from it.
But the comments from people freaking out about how this vulnerable group of people are getting a ‘free ride’ utterly disgusts me.
I’m lucky in that I have a supportive family and if I were ever in trouble I could rely on them for help. I can’t imagine what it’s like to go through the care system and then at 18 basically be told you’re on your own.
Give them every bit of help possible in my opinion.
Purpleraindove on
Let down by the system repeatedly, how sad. Very resilient guy.
cbawiththismalarky on
Almost the same story as mine except 30 years in between
Mock_Womble on
Worked three jobs to get enough money to pay *an entire year’s worth of rent upfront* because “he knew it was coming”.
An absolute travesty.
Ticklishchap on
What a courageous young man. He is a great role model and his story of overcoming the worst forms of hardship should inspire us all.
Longjumping-Buy-4736 on
“Two weeks before my 18th birthday, I got an eviction letter telling me I had to leave.”
There’s a young british lad who posted on Reddit about his foster parents who raised him for 10 years kicking him out with only a couple days notice before his 18th birthday.
It’s crazy how the system pull a switch on the 18th birthday of the child in care to suddenly treat them like an undesirable adult left on the street
TouristEquivalent649 on
It must have been hard for you fella,you seem to be on the right path to a successful life with determination,well done for getting of the class A drugs, they do only one thing , destroy your life,it’s all about confidence, something that is stripped away when you are in care, so fella never forget the way to come out on top is supreme confidence and being in control of your future, good luck and walk tall fella and you won’t go wrong
I was in many children’s homes and institutions from 1966-1980 and boy did it mess with my head
Independent_Long_107 on
The only reason to separate siblings is if one of them is abusive to the other.
RobocopsMaw on
This is a perfect example of damned if you do damned if you don’t. He complains that social work should have took him into care earlier because his parents were abusive. Then complains that he got put into care. Then at age 18 is asked to leave care, likely because places will only be funded until that age… complains again that he’s not in care. What do people want social work to do in this situation? There’s literally no action where they are not blamed. His brother and him being kept together would have been a priority, but unfortunately is not always possible, and in these circumstances there is always efforts to keep them in regular contact. I’m sure if they’d left him at home with his abusive parents to be abused/neglected/killed, people would have the pitchforks out for social work anyway. Literally no course of action would not be criticised here. Unsurprising no one wants to do the job.
gintokireddit on
It always puzzles me that abuse of children gets less attention than abuse of adult women. Considering the former are more powerless, still have a developing brain and research shows the former is more long-term harmful.
Is it because children can’t advocate for themselves until long after they’ve physically left the situation? It it because childhood victims normalise it because it’s all they know, so they’re less likely to speak up, compared to an adult who was raised knowing what normal interpersonal relationships look like and who developed more self-worth to know they’re being wronged when in an abusive situation?
Is it because the media doesn’t portray childhood issues like they do women’s issues, making it harder for people to empathise and call for change? – there’s a plethora of domestic abuse storylines in cinema, soaps and tv dramas, but very few portrayals of childhood abuse.
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Harrowing story
>For two weeks, my brother and I were in care together, but the foster carers decided they didn’t want him. That was the most soul-destroying thing that had ever happened to me. I remember screaming as we were ripped apart from each other
I just don’t know how people can do this to children. Why do people this cold and cruel work in foster care/CPS?
In Wales they did a universal income trial for care leavers for a couple of years. I think they’re waiting a few years before they publish the results just to see any medium term effects from it.
But the comments from people freaking out about how this vulnerable group of people are getting a ‘free ride’ utterly disgusts me.
I’m lucky in that I have a supportive family and if I were ever in trouble I could rely on them for help. I can’t imagine what it’s like to go through the care system and then at 18 basically be told you’re on your own.
Give them every bit of help possible in my opinion.
Let down by the system repeatedly, how sad. Very resilient guy.
Almost the same story as mine except 30 years in between
Worked three jobs to get enough money to pay *an entire year’s worth of rent upfront* because “he knew it was coming”.
An absolute travesty.
What a courageous young man. He is a great role model and his story of overcoming the worst forms of hardship should inspire us all.
“Two weeks before my 18th birthday, I got an eviction letter telling me I had to leave.”
There’s a young british lad who posted on Reddit about his foster parents who raised him for 10 years kicking him out with only a couple days notice before his 18th birthday.
It’s crazy how the system pull a switch on the 18th birthday of the child in care to suddenly treat them like an undesirable adult left on the street
It must have been hard for you fella,you seem to be on the right path to a successful life with determination,well done for getting of the class A drugs, they do only one thing , destroy your life,it’s all about confidence, something that is stripped away when you are in care, so fella never forget the way to come out on top is supreme confidence and being in control of your future, good luck and walk tall fella and you won’t go wrong
I was in many children’s homes and institutions from 1966-1980 and boy did it mess with my head
The only reason to separate siblings is if one of them is abusive to the other.
This is a perfect example of damned if you do damned if you don’t. He complains that social work should have took him into care earlier because his parents were abusive. Then complains that he got put into care. Then at age 18 is asked to leave care, likely because places will only be funded until that age… complains again that he’s not in care. What do people want social work to do in this situation? There’s literally no action where they are not blamed. His brother and him being kept together would have been a priority, but unfortunately is not always possible, and in these circumstances there is always efforts to keep them in regular contact. I’m sure if they’d left him at home with his abusive parents to be abused/neglected/killed, people would have the pitchforks out for social work anyway. Literally no course of action would not be criticised here. Unsurprising no one wants to do the job.
It always puzzles me that abuse of children gets less attention than abuse of adult women. Considering the former are more powerless, still have a developing brain and research shows the former is more long-term harmful.
Is it because children can’t advocate for themselves until long after they’ve physically left the situation? It it because childhood victims normalise it because it’s all they know, so they’re less likely to speak up, compared to an adult who was raised knowing what normal interpersonal relationships look like and who developed more self-worth to know they’re being wronged when in an abusive situation?
Is it because the media doesn’t portray childhood issues like they do women’s issues, making it harder for people to empathise and call for change? – there’s a plethora of domestic abuse storylines in cinema, soaps and tv dramas, but very few portrayals of childhood abuse.