Teacher who gave pupil money and told her he loved her avoids ban

This seems utterly insane to me, you don’t get a much clearer case of grooming than this.

> hundreds of pounds in cash, bought her new clothes, messaged her repeatedly and even told her **he wanted to adopt her**

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I’m assuming this is the root of it- they believe his excessive interest and involvement was not sexually motivated and that he genuinely was seeking a parental rather than romantic role

There’ll be a lot of details the article doesn’t have, but I can’t make much sense of it otherwise

Nobody knows shit. Its Reddit. Also ‘m sure the committee investigating would have had more information about the situation than you do. As goes for the Police, The teacher’s colleagues who would have been asked for their input and anyone else far closer to the story than you. You have no information people here don’t have. You’ve got an opinion you don’t have facts. You might be wrong or you might be right. But there may be circumstances outside of your knowledge that would change your mind if you knew them. So try reserve your judgement until you know shit eh!

My niece’s friend across the road used to always came over to visit her while she was staying. She’d come over and never leave our house, My niece would come to visit for a week at a time every few months. My niece complained to her about her mum being over protective. My niece’s friend who lost her dad to suicide and who has a mother who drunk herself out cold every day replied with “At least you have somebody who loves you!” I thought that was wholesome until she started crying and saying “My dad didn’t care and my mum doesn’t care! Nobody loves me! I don’t have anybody!” I just overheard the whole thing. Listening to a 10 year old saying this and being serious broke my heart. That kid grew up far too quick and i wish i had the courage to tell her “You’re wrong kid, We all love you. I think you’re a great kid you’re always looking after your family. Your little sister loves you and i know your mum loves you too she’s just unwell!” But because of the whole stigma perpetuated by folks like yourself i zipped my mouth. That little girl killed herself a few years later. Her mum drank herself to death shortly afterwards, Her little sister had nobody. All because Adults can’t care for somebody else’s kids even if they’re clearly being neglected. She was clothed and she ate, She wasn’t hurt but don’t be mistaken, She was neglected. She’d often skip school to do housework.

I know the gifts are problematic and he should have found a better way of dealing with things. But o know I always felt good about giving my niece some money when she came to visit so her friend could do things with her. I’d give her enough money to treat her friend and her friend’s little sister to McDs and some sweets, I’d give her money so she could goto the pictures and take her friend with her. Her friend wasn’t getting any real love at home and when i found out she was gone i wept. Because i wish we’d have opened the door to her more. If i knew all it took was somebody saying “Fuck it, I don’t care what people think. You can visit my house to play games any time you like, I think you’re awesome kiddo. You are loved.!” I wish i would have. That teacher stepped across a line buying things and telling the kid they’re loved the kid never got the vibe he was trying to groom them sexually. The kid knew it was because they felt sorry for them..

His behaviour was investigated. They would have seized his computer, his phone etc, they they would have investigate his social media and emails, his texts and his logs. They not only didn’t find that he was a pedo, They believe he should still be teaching. Its creepy what happened but it might just be a guy who seen something horrible about to unfold and decided “I’m not going to let that happen!” As for social services. That teacher may have known full well getting social services could have been out of the pan and into the fire for a neglected kid as he’d know as much as a quarter of neglected kids placed in care end up being molested